I am no expert on marriage. This I know and will be glad to admit. Aaron and I are hitting the big 3 year mark in September. Once again, Kaeyln if you read this one day you are blind and that 3 is really a 4 and we were married before you were born. Also, if you happen to see any pictures from our wedding day at the courthouse (which we have hidden away because Aaron and I were, ummm, for lack of a better word rather fat at the time.) Anyway, if you see any of those pictures that was some other couples little girl we were holding in the picture!
Kidding- I am happy as a clam that we had you first. We talked about getting married before but decided not to for a few reasons. We wanted to do things in our own time and on our own terms and not feel pressured by family or others. I didn't want to be a prego bride. No offense to those that got married while pregnant whatsoever. It just wasn't something that I wanted to do. Halfway through my pregnancy we found out Aaron would be headed overseas right after Kaelyn was born so there was no way that emotionally I could handle being pregnant, thinking about my future husband & childs father going into a war zone, and plan a wedding at the same time. I'm sure I would of had to do a quick stint in a padded room afterwards.
So one day we just said hey, lets go to the courthouse and get married this week before you leave the country. I mean I knew I was going to marry the guy one day so why the big fuss with a wedding? The jig was up anyways, we already had a baby. So we settle on a day but little does he know that I had a surprise going away party planned for him afterwards at Round Table Pizza. Yes people, we got married at the courthouse with a judge that compared a great marriage to a good worn in pair of jeans, with our baby, in my $19.99 dress from TJMAXX and went and had pizza and beer with our friends afterwards. Classy right? It made for a great ice breaker at work when I would register couples getting married and they would ask how my wedding was....oh the looks on their faces!!! So anyway, back to my original topic. Marriage....
First off, I need to insert my disclaimer in here...see previous post. (I love you babe)
Marriage is no joke. Seriously. As a girl you dream of your wedding... well most girls do. Im not going to say I never thought about it but the thing I thought about more than my dress or who my bridesmaids would be was wondering which dad I would have walk me down the aisle. I had nightmares over this topic. Fights would break out over it in my dreams. ( I know that in reality they wouldn't but still, your thoughts tend to wander) But you hear horror stories about peoples family wedding dramas and you pray to the big man that won't be you. So in the end I guess by getting married at the courthouse by the "jean judge" I avoided any of those potential issues from ever happening in real life. I am not scared of much in life. Well, besides blood, guts, violence, spiders and zombies. But as far as real life events not much makes me shake in my boots. Marriage WAS something that I found myself nervous about. Everyone in my family has been divorced, some more than once and by everyone I mean everyone. (minus one Aunt and Uncle) See why I had dreams about fights breaking out at my future wedding if I picked the wrong dad to walk me down the aisle?!?! I was a child of divorce, and I have been an adult when my parents divorced (mom and step-dad) Both situations suck big time. Even though my sister and I got plenty of love from all of our parents divorce still takes it's toll no matter how amicable the parents try and be. So when it came time for Aaron and I to get married I couldn't help but think... how do I know this is going to be forever? What if he marries me and then regrets it down the road? What if I regret it? These weren't thoughts I had a lot and I was damn sure I wanted this man to be my husband but when all you have been surrounded with your entire life was divorce, it makes you wonder if that path will be passed on to you as well. If you haven't had much divorce in your life I don't expect you to understand that line of thinking and that's ok.
I am not against divorce. I don't like it but lets be real, some things just don't work out in life including the people we pick to be in them. Shoot, my husband was married once before me...something that is no big secret. So if it wasn't for divorce I wouldn't have ended up with this gem of a man. He is a great guy and she is a great gal, things just didn't work. That being said I can't stand how getting divorced almost seems like more of a trend than getting married does these days. Every time I log onto the internet or turn on the tv another famous couple is calling it splitzville. Do we give up to easy these days and just throw in the towel? Who knows. But i bet that if you find a couple that's been together for 50 years they will tell you that it wasn't always peaches and cream. Everything has its highs and lows, and it's all about how you decide to handle things. Do you run for the hills alone? Or do you put on your hiking boots, grab your spouses hand and hike the mountain together? I know that I am forever grateful that Aaron entered my life, he is an excellent man, spouse and father. Sometimes I feel like I don't deserve someone this great because of my past fears about marriage... I had to breifly kick my own butt and remind myself that I do in fact deserve someone great in my life and that he deserved the same. We aren't a mushy couple that needs to be together all of the time and thats the way we like it. Heck, right now I am in our room watching American Idol while he is out in the living room drinking Johnny Walker and watching soccer and if tomorrow someone asks me how my evening was, I would say it was great because it was. That is something I learned about love and marriage (mainly marriage after you have a baby) when you are newly in love your evenings are spent cuddling and watching movies together. After marriage and I will say it again, marriage with a baby, love is having your spouse let you shower alone, with the door closed long enough to shave your legs without your child banging on the door. Being so thankful for that shower and alone time that you turn the shower off and realize that you didn't even wash your hair or body!! Yes, that happened to me tonight actually. I was just so glad to have a few minutes to ignore all noise because I knew he was there to handle it. And if you are really lucky like I am your husband will put said child in her jammies and give her milk without even telling you and lets you stay in your mommy cave (mine is our room) and watch a little tv alone. Or having him come home after working a 12 hour day and listens to me ramble on about how funny Ellen was today on TV, knowing he can give two shits about Ellen and her show but knows I am so thankful to see another adult in the house he just lets me tell him and pretends to be interested. At this point in our lives I feel more love towards him over things like that than I would with a fancy date night or romantic gesture. Don't get me wrong he scored some major points with that diamond necklace he got me recently but im pretty simple, I would have been happy with some crest white strips.
I am not the best wife. I never will be and I don't think I want to be. I am flawed and he loves me anyway. I know things won't always be peachy keen between us but when I am 80 I see him sitting on the couch with me, watching a movie. Something we may not have time for now, but will at that age. In reality it will probably be from an adjustable sleep number bed in a retirement home but still, he is mine and I will thank my lucky stars forever that I ended up with such a great man.
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Meltdown mania
So.....I should have listened to Kaelyn when with all seriousness in her 2 year old voice she told me she didn't want to go to the dentist. Epic disaster! I will get to that in second. First I feel I should start off by saying I LOVE BEING A PARENT! I felt that I should add that as a disclaimer of some sort in case Kaelyn is able to read these posts one day. Mommy loves you pumpkin but sometimes you make me wanna scream! There...moving on.
I just started reading this book on my Kindle (thanks babe for the Christmas present!) Ketchup Is A Vegetable: And Other Lies Moms Tell Themselves.http://www.amazon.com/Ketchup-Vegetable-Other-Lies-Themselves/dp/0984716521/ref=sr_1_cc_1?s=aps&ie=UTF8&qid=1330540855&sr=1-1-catcorr
It was a free Kindle download one day I saw on a coupon blog I follow and since I LOVE free I decided to download it and thank goodness I did! The book is a bunch of journal entries from a mother of 3 girls. So far she seems to have a great sense of humor about all the embarrassing things that happen to you when you become a parent. For example, how your thought process was BEFORE you had kids. Thinking, I will never be that mom that says "Because I said so" or wears sweats to the grocery store, or has "those" kids that make a scene in public. I am going to love my kids so much that they will be angels all the time. I have to admit, I thought the same way about some of those things. Because if you love your kids and do your best to show them how to act properly they wouldn't have any reason to act out right? WRONG! Kids are kids and many parents have told me that between the ages of 2-4 is when you start to feel broken and defeated at times as a parent. Maybe it's my hormones from being pregnant and still adjusting to being home all the time, but I am starting to see what these other parents are talking about. I have to say it again, I absolutely love my child and even though she is testing me up the wazoo lately, deep down inside somewhere I am laughing because she defiantly got my stubbornness. When I try and tell Aaron about what she says or does during the day (when its not good) he says "man, that sucks. She isn't that way with me." I love you too babe (add to disclaimer) but I really want to scream when I hear that even though I know you mean nothing by it. Of course she won't be like that with you, you have been working all day and by the time you get home I'm sure she is down right sick of me and is ecstatic to see you! So here is a sample of some of her stellar behavior this week.
I was craving avocados like mad the other day, and since there is no getting in the way of what a prego wants Kaelyn and I ventured to the store on a whim. She was already in a bad mood but I was just going to be in and out. HUGE MISTAKE. Two minutes into our trip to Trader Joe's the screaming started. Other kids were trying to be nice and say hi to her and she would frown at them. I decided to give her my phone so she could play a puzzle. Crisis diverted-That is until I needed my phone for a quick second to call Aaron. Here is where the real meltdown begins. All of the sudden I had "that kid" in the store. That kid that before I was a parent I was convinced wasn't possible for me to have. That kid that makes everyone stare at you and even though we were in the back of the store i'm sure people checking out up front were loading up their reusable shopping bags thinking man...someone's kid ain't happy. At this point between the spitting and kicking I would have skipped the damn avocados and few other things I needed and got a bag of wine instead. Since that isn't an option we had to get our crap and hightail it outta there. I am in tears the entire way home because A.) I am mortified and B.) I am one hormonal woman these days. As soon as we get home and she sees her dad everything is all good. Eff that girl, I need an apology, stat. Which I am still waiting for and i'm sure it won't be the last time! That meltdown was enough for me to handle this week, but oh no, we had the dentist 2 days later........
This was Kaelyn's first dental appt. Now I know some kids go way earlier but her Dr said unless we felt we needed to take her before for some reason taking her when she was 2 is what he would recommend. I started talking to her about the dentist last week hoping to get her excited about it. I even let her carry her toothbrush to the dentist so she would understand where we were going. I thought I was on top of it and the meltdown wouldn't happen because I prepped her for the visit. We show up for her appt and there is nothing on the books for us until the following week. Now I know for a fact that the receptionist said Feb 29th and not March 7th. I may lack tons of brain cells these days but I know there is a huge difference in the way February and March sound. Thank goodness they had a cancellation and we were able to be seen right away. The 5 minutes in the waiting room were enough for me. Kaelyn was being fine, but it was the R&B slow jams from high school that were playing overhead that made me wanna run right out of there. So her consultation begins and she seems to be fine. Then the dentist comes in and the real fun starts. Now Kaelyn hates going to the Dr until the appt is over and he is walking out of the room. Then she gets friendly and says "Thank you much, see ya, bye bye!" So I could only imagine how some man poking at her teeth would go. This dentist seemed to be a nice enough guy but when he came in he was using this incredibly annoying high pitched baby talk to Kaelyn and she was just staring at him like he was a mutant alien. He would then talk to me with the same voice and can't even tell you what he was saying, I just know that I wanted to scream...Just get it over with already!!! Talk to her like an adult. Pin her down, look in her mouth and let us get outta here!!! She actually did a little better than imagined. Sure she screamed the entire time and had crocodile tears but she didn't bite him! And of course, in her usual fashion once the appt was over she ended it with "Thank you much, see ya, bye bye." as she is walking out of the room on her own, not even looking to see if I am following her. For some reason the tears began again in the elevator on the way to the car. When we got to the car I had to set her down to get my keys. 2 seconds tops is what that would take. Well, she decided to run. So I capture her and she does that awesome thing that kids do where they act like their legs give out so you basically have to drag them. The ground was soaked so that wasn't gonna happen. I get her to stand up and once I let go she plots her revenge. There was a HUGE puddle next to my car. No joke my angel decided to throw herself into it. Now i'm not talking just stomping in it. She threw herself onto the ground into the puddle!!! Are you kidding me?! At this time another family walked out the door and I am sure I was dubbed Parent of the year in their eyes. I couldn't get home fast enough.
The book I am reading also talks about how impossible it is for people that don't have kids to understand that having them is a constant job, like more that 24/7 even though that's actaully not possible I get what she was saying. Some days a 10 minute meltdown can ruin you as a parent for the rest of the day. I am not saying that person is me all of the time,but the experience I had at Trader Joe's did ruin me mentally for the rest of the day. Luckily, most days Kaelyn is in a great mood. She laughs all the time and says I love you constantly. I know this is just a phase that most kids go through. Even though it is driving me nuts now, I know it will make for great stories when she is older!!! So Kaelyn, if you ever read this just know that I couldn't be happier to be your mom. When you have kids one day (Which may not happen because Aaron said she is never allowed to date.) and you come to me when they hit this stage, don't get mad if I just laugh hysterically for a minute before I tell you that this too shall pass.
I just started reading this book on my Kindle (thanks babe for the Christmas present!) Ketchup Is A Vegetable: And Other Lies Moms Tell Themselves.http://www.amazon.com/Ketchup-Vegetable-Other-Lies-Themselves/dp/0984716521/ref=sr_1_cc_1?s=aps&ie=UTF8&qid=1330540855&sr=1-1-catcorr
It was a free Kindle download one day I saw on a coupon blog I follow and since I LOVE free I decided to download it and thank goodness I did! The book is a bunch of journal entries from a mother of 3 girls. So far she seems to have a great sense of humor about all the embarrassing things that happen to you when you become a parent. For example, how your thought process was BEFORE you had kids. Thinking, I will never be that mom that says "Because I said so" or wears sweats to the grocery store, or has "those" kids that make a scene in public. I am going to love my kids so much that they will be angels all the time. I have to admit, I thought the same way about some of those things. Because if you love your kids and do your best to show them how to act properly they wouldn't have any reason to act out right? WRONG! Kids are kids and many parents have told me that between the ages of 2-4 is when you start to feel broken and defeated at times as a parent. Maybe it's my hormones from being pregnant and still adjusting to being home all the time, but I am starting to see what these other parents are talking about. I have to say it again, I absolutely love my child and even though she is testing me up the wazoo lately, deep down inside somewhere I am laughing because she defiantly got my stubbornness. When I try and tell Aaron about what she says or does during the day (when its not good) he says "man, that sucks. She isn't that way with me." I love you too babe (add to disclaimer) but I really want to scream when I hear that even though I know you mean nothing by it. Of course she won't be like that with you, you have been working all day and by the time you get home I'm sure she is down right sick of me and is ecstatic to see you! So here is a sample of some of her stellar behavior this week.
I was craving avocados like mad the other day, and since there is no getting in the way of what a prego wants Kaelyn and I ventured to the store on a whim. She was already in a bad mood but I was just going to be in and out. HUGE MISTAKE. Two minutes into our trip to Trader Joe's the screaming started. Other kids were trying to be nice and say hi to her and she would frown at them. I decided to give her my phone so she could play a puzzle. Crisis diverted-That is until I needed my phone for a quick second to call Aaron. Here is where the real meltdown begins. All of the sudden I had "that kid" in the store. That kid that before I was a parent I was convinced wasn't possible for me to have. That kid that makes everyone stare at you and even though we were in the back of the store i'm sure people checking out up front were loading up their reusable shopping bags thinking man...someone's kid ain't happy. At this point between the spitting and kicking I would have skipped the damn avocados and few other things I needed and got a bag of wine instead. Since that isn't an option we had to get our crap and hightail it outta there. I am in tears the entire way home because A.) I am mortified and B.) I am one hormonal woman these days. As soon as we get home and she sees her dad everything is all good. Eff that girl, I need an apology, stat. Which I am still waiting for and i'm sure it won't be the last time! That meltdown was enough for me to handle this week, but oh no, we had the dentist 2 days later........
This was Kaelyn's first dental appt. Now I know some kids go way earlier but her Dr said unless we felt we needed to take her before for some reason taking her when she was 2 is what he would recommend. I started talking to her about the dentist last week hoping to get her excited about it. I even let her carry her toothbrush to the dentist so she would understand where we were going. I thought I was on top of it and the meltdown wouldn't happen because I prepped her for the visit. We show up for her appt and there is nothing on the books for us until the following week. Now I know for a fact that the receptionist said Feb 29th and not March 7th. I may lack tons of brain cells these days but I know there is a huge difference in the way February and March sound. Thank goodness they had a cancellation and we were able to be seen right away. The 5 minutes in the waiting room were enough for me. Kaelyn was being fine, but it was the R&B slow jams from high school that were playing overhead that made me wanna run right out of there. So her consultation begins and she seems to be fine. Then the dentist comes in and the real fun starts. Now Kaelyn hates going to the Dr until the appt is over and he is walking out of the room. Then she gets friendly and says "Thank you much, see ya, bye bye!" So I could only imagine how some man poking at her teeth would go. This dentist seemed to be a nice enough guy but when he came in he was using this incredibly annoying high pitched baby talk to Kaelyn and she was just staring at him like he was a mutant alien. He would then talk to me with the same voice and can't even tell you what he was saying, I just know that I wanted to scream...Just get it over with already!!! Talk to her like an adult. Pin her down, look in her mouth and let us get outta here!!! She actually did a little better than imagined. Sure she screamed the entire time and had crocodile tears but she didn't bite him! And of course, in her usual fashion once the appt was over she ended it with "Thank you much, see ya, bye bye." as she is walking out of the room on her own, not even looking to see if I am following her. For some reason the tears began again in the elevator on the way to the car. When we got to the car I had to set her down to get my keys. 2 seconds tops is what that would take. Well, she decided to run. So I capture her and she does that awesome thing that kids do where they act like their legs give out so you basically have to drag them. The ground was soaked so that wasn't gonna happen. I get her to stand up and once I let go she plots her revenge. There was a HUGE puddle next to my car. No joke my angel decided to throw herself into it. Now i'm not talking just stomping in it. She threw herself onto the ground into the puddle!!! Are you kidding me?! At this time another family walked out the door and I am sure I was dubbed Parent of the year in their eyes. I couldn't get home fast enough.
The book I am reading also talks about how impossible it is for people that don't have kids to understand that having them is a constant job, like more that 24/7 even though that's actaully not possible I get what she was saying. Some days a 10 minute meltdown can ruin you as a parent for the rest of the day. I am not saying that person is me all of the time,but the experience I had at Trader Joe's did ruin me mentally for the rest of the day. Luckily, most days Kaelyn is in a great mood. She laughs all the time and says I love you constantly. I know this is just a phase that most kids go through. Even though it is driving me nuts now, I know it will make for great stories when she is older!!! So Kaelyn, if you ever read this just know that I couldn't be happier to be your mom. When you have kids one day (Which may not happen because Aaron said she is never allowed to date.) and you come to me when they hit this stage, don't get mad if I just laugh hysterically for a minute before I tell you that this too shall pass.
Monday, February 27, 2012
Weekend Wrap-up
Well, it's 4:32 am and I just had to bust out a power strip so I could have my lamp on, keep the laptop plugged in since it will die after 30 seconds if it isn't, and have my heating pad toasty warm since I am having some awful tailbone pain that is making me walk like im 80. Now combine that with the new prego waddle im sportin and be jealous of my hotness!I couldn't sleep so I was reading some blogs from my cousin. Is she really my cousin? If you ask me I say yes but techincally speaking, no. My step dad used to be married to a woman... whos sister is married to a man... who is the brother to my cousins late mother. Do ya follow? Yeah, not many people do and that's why we just say cousin. Anyhoo, I love her and think she is a remarkable woman, mother and cousin/friend. Reading her blogs this morning at 2:30am got me thinking (they were more on the serious side with her added wit and humor of course.) and since my prego brain can't handle complex thoughts and almost everything is getting me emotional lately I decided to wake up and blog about our weekend instead.
Aaron has been working his tail off for months and actually had the ENTIRE weekend off!! This is huge, I always worked on Saturdays so we hardly ever had the entire weekend together. We decided to get some much needed things taken care of around the house, have some family time and do something fun for Kaelyn.
Friday Night Aaron's twin bro came over so they could play some FIFA and I went to play Bingo and the Elks club...(see, I am 80!)
Saturday we ran errands and had some family time. We made a trip to Lowes and FINALLY bought a new light fixture for above our dining room table. The ugly brass with etched glass panelled light was soon to be a thing of the past. Who am I kidding, that light was a thing of the past the day we said "I do" to our 30 fixed on this house!
OUT WITH THE OLD.....
We were also able to squeeze in some family time, a visit to Aaron's Grandma's, that lady is so cute. She is going on 91 and living on her own! She always gives Kaelyn $20 to go to McDonalds!! Oh and we found a headboard for Kaelyn's room in her garage..It was Aarons old one! Can't wait to fix it up. We did a little card playing with the neighbors, Aaron put in a shelf in the hall closet for me, we made a trip to the Children's museum for Kaelyn's fun time, and then Tully's for some Chais...which is a place Aaron and I would frequent on Sundays when we were dating. Now there we were sippin chais and sharing pastries with our 2 year old in the very place we would talk about things we wanted in our future. It was one of those ahhhhhh moments for me, with a side of chocolate milk and crumbs all over the table thanks to Kaelyn! On the way home I said I would like to do some yard work which Aaron knew meant he would be doing most of the manual labor but as my mom would say "hes a good egg" and did it anyway. We cleaned the front yard, the laundry room, and the garage (which were all a disaster!)
It was so nice to not be in front of the TV and be out and about. There is always too much to do when you only have one day off together each week. This was such a nice treat and even though I know we won't get many weekends like that I hope when we do we make the most of them like we did with this one!
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
A day alone with nowhere to go!
For the last year and a half I have always worked on Tuesday mornings. Kaelyn spends that day with Aarons mom and with the exception that one of us is on vacation, this routine never changes. So even though my new title is "housewife" (barf!) No offense to housewives out there AT ALL... im sure in time I will like it, I just don't like the term- housewife! Because lets face it, we are way more than that! And the word HOUSE-WIFE...I'm not married to my house, I am married to my husband. Well, I guess I am sort of married to the house but only for 30 years which is longer than some peoples marriages I guess. Anyway, back to my original point here....My mother in law still wanted to spend time with Kaelyn so we decided to keep the same Tuesday schedule. This gave me...wait for it...yes I am going to say it........ A DAY ALONE! What the heck was I going to do!??!?! The possibilities are endless right?! A massage, shopping, lunch with a friend, or a pedicure. I could even spend the day parked on the side of the road doing nothing and that's ok! I was going to make the most of this day...or so I thought.
Originally I was going to drive up and have lunch with Aaron. It was Valentine's day so why not? Even though we don't care much about that day a lunch date would still be nice. And besides, he got me that sweet necklace so the least I could do was use his hard earned $ and buy him a sandwich or something right! :) Well, my husband is THE BEST and kindly declined my offer and suggested that I spend the day alone doing whatever I wanted since I rarely get to do that and once nugget #2 comes I probably never will. Now some ladies out there might have been hurt that their man turned down a lunch date with their lady..but nope...not me!! I know he only said no because he loves me and knows that I need some me time every so often. So here is what I ended up doing with my "free day 2012."
I started out at Target, every moms Mecca. I promised myself I wouldn't even enter the kids dept. Tell me why that is where I spent the most time! After I was able to pull myself away from the clearance kids racks, I left with a hefty purchase of Aveeno face wash and a clearance shirt for myself. $12.00 total. Now anyone that shops at Target often enough knows it's next to impossible to leave there only spending $12.00. Target was a bust.
Next stop, the mall. I have some gift cards that I needed to spend.... I wandered around the mall clueless about what to buy or where to look. (probably because I can't stand being at the mall) I managed to get a Jamba Juice hoping that would spark something in me to get the shopping bug going...NOTHING! All I could think about was that I would rather of had a salted pretzel instead of the Jamba Juice. I looked at kid shit (sorry for the bad word) the entire time I was there and left empty handed. I decided to head to a place where I knew I could leave with a bag of goodies. Value Village! Well, that was a bust as well...they weren't having any specials (50% off of a certain colored tag) and even though thrift store things aren't too spendy I usually don't buy anything unless the tag is the color of the 50% off. Yes, go ahead and say it, im cheap! Being frugal is the name of the game when you don't have a job.
I ventured home and ended up spending the last few hours of my alone time blasting music and dancing while cleaning my house... I made an attempt to organize some baby things...(major fail) and got caught up on some of my shows on the DVR. Aaron was coming home somewhat early and was going to pick up some MSM Mike's deluxe sammies for dinner, which was pretty much the highlight of the day. :)
So the whole point of this post....Moms, why is it that we crave some alone time and when we do get it we don't know what to do with ourselves?! Or is it just me? Maybe after #2 arrives I will know what to do on the off chance that I get some me time. All of this got me thinking and im pretty sure the last time I did anything ALONE and just for me was on my birthday and that is only because Aaron got me a day at the spa and called ahead and made the appt for me, as well as got a babysitter lined up...Refer back to when I said he is seriously the greatest guy! But at the end of the day I am glad that I would rather spend the day chasing around my kid, and I am forever grateful that I am able to be home with her and watch her grow!
What do you do with your free time?
Originally I was going to drive up and have lunch with Aaron. It was Valentine's day so why not? Even though we don't care much about that day a lunch date would still be nice. And besides, he got me that sweet necklace so the least I could do was use his hard earned $ and buy him a sandwich or something right! :) Well, my husband is THE BEST and kindly declined my offer and suggested that I spend the day alone doing whatever I wanted since I rarely get to do that and once nugget #2 comes I probably never will. Now some ladies out there might have been hurt that their man turned down a lunch date with their lady..but nope...not me!! I know he only said no because he loves me and knows that I need some me time every so often. So here is what I ended up doing with my "free day 2012."
I started out at Target, every moms Mecca. I promised myself I wouldn't even enter the kids dept. Tell me why that is where I spent the most time! After I was able to pull myself away from the clearance kids racks, I left with a hefty purchase of Aveeno face wash and a clearance shirt for myself. $12.00 total. Now anyone that shops at Target often enough knows it's next to impossible to leave there only spending $12.00. Target was a bust.
Next stop, the mall. I have some gift cards that I needed to spend.... I wandered around the mall clueless about what to buy or where to look. (probably because I can't stand being at the mall) I managed to get a Jamba Juice hoping that would spark something in me to get the shopping bug going...NOTHING! All I could think about was that I would rather of had a salted pretzel instead of the Jamba Juice. I looked at kid shit (sorry for the bad word) the entire time I was there and left empty handed. I decided to head to a place where I knew I could leave with a bag of goodies. Value Village! Well, that was a bust as well...they weren't having any specials (50% off of a certain colored tag) and even though thrift store things aren't too spendy I usually don't buy anything unless the tag is the color of the 50% off. Yes, go ahead and say it, im cheap! Being frugal is the name of the game when you don't have a job.
I ventured home and ended up spending the last few hours of my alone time blasting music and dancing while cleaning my house... I made an attempt to organize some baby things...(major fail) and got caught up on some of my shows on the DVR. Aaron was coming home somewhat early and was going to pick up some MSM Mike's deluxe sammies for dinner, which was pretty much the highlight of the day. :)
So the whole point of this post....Moms, why is it that we crave some alone time and when we do get it we don't know what to do with ourselves?! Or is it just me? Maybe after #2 arrives I will know what to do on the off chance that I get some me time. All of this got me thinking and im pretty sure the last time I did anything ALONE and just for me was on my birthday and that is only because Aaron got me a day at the spa and called ahead and made the appt for me, as well as got a babysitter lined up...Refer back to when I said he is seriously the greatest guy! But at the end of the day I am glad that I would rather spend the day chasing around my kid, and I am forever grateful that I am able to be home with her and watch her grow!
What do you do with your free time?
Thursday, February 9, 2012
Keeping busy and loving it!
Well...lots of changes in the Pingul house these days. Ok, so maybe not "lots" per say but more than usual for us.
-My last day of work is this Saturday. I am way more emotional about this transition than I thought I would be. Now, I am well aware of the fact that I work part time in retail, and by no means am I part of the President's secret service detail but still, I love my little job and it is the only thing I get to really do just for me. I have left there once before for a few months while Aaron was overseas but I knew I would be going back. This time who knows, I have a feeling I will be very busy with two kiddos running around! Well one running and one pooping and spitting up a lot. (Yes folks, i'm talking about Aaron here :) Kidding honey!) I give you stay at home mamas some credit....it's a tough job!
-I am going to be watching some friends precious little one a few times a week until our nugget arrives. Who is still nameless and at this rate may stay that way until birth! I am very excited to have her come and hang out with Kaelyn and I..I love babies and she is super cute!
-Aaron is working like a mad man these days. 6 days a week, 12 hour days. We don't see him much except for on Sundays (so take note people if you ever have a function on a Sunday and we aren't there it's nothing personal, we are just trying our best to keep that as a family day since we only get one a week!) His work schedule being so hectic is the main reason we chose to have me leave work and stay home. I am very proud of him for working so hard to take care of his family. We are some darn lucky Pingul girls to have such a good man in our lives!
-Kaelyn is growing up way too fast for me. She is really into calling Aaron by his name instead of calling him Daddy. Which I find HYSTERICAL.....he doesn't! This week she has decided not to nap anymore. Not cool kid, not cool! Listen up, your nap time is my cleaning and DVR time! SLEEP!She asks to go to school every day!! (instead we started going to the library...shhh don't tell her, she thinks it's school!) She has been binky free for weeks now with no problem. She only had it at nighttime for the last year anyways.Now when I look at her semi crooked top teeth I can't help but wonder....was popping that bink in her mouth when she was an infant so that I could gain some quiet time and soothe her worth it now that shes going to need braces???....it ABSOLUTELY was! :) Besides, all kids have braces these days right? :)
-We are STILL cleaning up our yard from the storm in January. Maybe one day we can remove some more trees to avoid such a big mess in the yard every time the wind blows! I am really itching to do some things around the house... good thing we have a nursery to get ready! Here is the rundown on how that will go. Kaelyn's room is going to become the babies room. The guest room will become Kaelyn's new room. The guest room will not exist until the kids grow out of needing a playroom. Aaron is going to have to find a way to squeeze his clothes into our room. They are currently in the guest room. Guess that means a closet makeover for our room!!! :)
I am so excited for the changes coming our way and I thought that once I left work things would slow down. Boy was I wrong!! Our calendar is full! Playmates, appts, babysitting, picking Manny (our neighbor) up from the bus some days....Everyday there seems to be something going on.
Well, that's about it for now folks..... time to make dinner!
-My last day of work is this Saturday. I am way more emotional about this transition than I thought I would be. Now, I am well aware of the fact that I work part time in retail, and by no means am I part of the President's secret service detail but still, I love my little job and it is the only thing I get to really do just for me. I have left there once before for a few months while Aaron was overseas but I knew I would be going back. This time who knows, I have a feeling I will be very busy with two kiddos running around! Well one running and one pooping and spitting up a lot. (Yes folks, i'm talking about Aaron here :) Kidding honey!) I give you stay at home mamas some credit....it's a tough job!
-I am going to be watching some friends precious little one a few times a week until our nugget arrives. Who is still nameless and at this rate may stay that way until birth! I am very excited to have her come and hang out with Kaelyn and I..I love babies and she is super cute!
-Aaron is working like a mad man these days. 6 days a week, 12 hour days. We don't see him much except for on Sundays (so take note people if you ever have a function on a Sunday and we aren't there it's nothing personal, we are just trying our best to keep that as a family day since we only get one a week!) His work schedule being so hectic is the main reason we chose to have me leave work and stay home. I am very proud of him for working so hard to take care of his family. We are some darn lucky Pingul girls to have such a good man in our lives!
-Kaelyn is growing up way too fast for me. She is really into calling Aaron by his name instead of calling him Daddy. Which I find HYSTERICAL.....he doesn't! This week she has decided not to nap anymore. Not cool kid, not cool! Listen up, your nap time is my cleaning and DVR time! SLEEP!She asks to go to school every day!! (instead we started going to the library...shhh don't tell her, she thinks it's school!) She has been binky free for weeks now with no problem. She only had it at nighttime for the last year anyways.Now when I look at her semi crooked top teeth I can't help but wonder....was popping that bink in her mouth when she was an infant so that I could gain some quiet time and soothe her worth it now that shes going to need braces???....it ABSOLUTELY was! :) Besides, all kids have braces these days right? :)
-We are STILL cleaning up our yard from the storm in January. Maybe one day we can remove some more trees to avoid such a big mess in the yard every time the wind blows! I am really itching to do some things around the house... good thing we have a nursery to get ready! Here is the rundown on how that will go. Kaelyn's room is going to become the babies room. The guest room will become Kaelyn's new room. The guest room will not exist until the kids grow out of needing a playroom. Aaron is going to have to find a way to squeeze his clothes into our room. They are currently in the guest room. Guess that means a closet makeover for our room!!! :)
I am so excited for the changes coming our way and I thought that once I left work things would slow down. Boy was I wrong!! Our calendar is full! Playmates, appts, babysitting, picking Manny (our neighbor) up from the bus some days....Everyday there seems to be something going on.
Well, that's about it for now folks..... time to make dinner!
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